So I spent a lot of the weekend outdoors in London shooting infields—that is, short video clips where I approach new girls, banter with them, and attempt to get their contact details. Or not, as the case may be.
It was an enlightening exercise for a number of reasons. I’d never done it before, you see…or at least, not to this extent (I have been filmed by friends on their mobile phones, but not professionally like this time).
I learned a few useful things about myself and my game which I’ll share with you in the coming days and weeks. But perhaps most importantly, I recognised how much of an introvert I really am, and the effect that this has on my energy.
Don’t get me wrong—it’s not like I don’t do long daygame sessions all the time. But most of my game (whether day or night) tends to happen solo. Why? I just prefer it that way. Plus I find it more efficient.
On Saturday I spent 4-5 hours with a cameraman who I’d only met briefly before running around trying to get footage.
So it was a doubly tricky exercise.
Because not only was I having to go and socialise with lots of people I’d never met before (girls), but also I was ‘performing’ in front of someone else, and on film!
(Well, digital . . but you know what I mean!)
And it was wearing . . . very, very wearing.
I’d also arranged to meet a friend at 9pm that same night (we finished the filming about 6). I met the friend as promised. But I was dying as we sat in the bar talking, and after a couple of hours I had to make my excuses and head home for bed.
The next day was pretty much a write-off. I slept for most of it, getting up only briefly to meet another friend for coffee who told me—justifiably—that I looked like a ghost.
Why was I so tired? I am fit and active, after all. Well, I believe it was for a few reasons.
Firstly, I’m not getting any younger, and now that I’m in my forties I have to be very careful about planning out the rhythm of my day efficiently.
Also, I have been recovering for some while from a dodgy virus of the flu variety, which I think didn’t help.
But I am certain that the main reason for complete wipeout yesterday was simply that I am an introvert.
I find social interactions very hard.
Tiring.
Draining.
And even though I am pretty good at them . . . which I hope the forthcoming footage will show . . . it doesn’t mean that there is no cost attached.
After an extended period of socialising I really need to take myself off somewhere quiet to rest and to replenish.
There is a silver lining to this though. Because my example shows that even if you are also an introvert, you can absolutely achieve success with dating and ‘enhanced socialising’ too.
I can be done. You just need to pace yourself.
And that pacing is something I will be teaching in other content going forwards.
In the meantime, I’ll keep you posted on the current, and future video projects.
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