Women who have had many sexual partners get a bad rap for not being able to hold down relationships or become decent mothers, but a a guy living the playboy lifestyle with a ton of sexual experience is just as likely to become bored and cheat.
While youthful experimentation is not only healthy but is also desirable for men, bedding an excessive number of women may not benefit you if you aspire to a long-term relationship later on
Rick and Chloe
Rick is married to Chloe. They both work for a company where I also used to be employed.
Recently I met up with a former colleague and he updated me on the state of Rick and Chloe’s relationship.
What he told me was intriguing, if not a little depressing.
First some context. Rick is probably the most successful “natural” I’ve ever met when it comes to picking up women.
With count of nearly five hundred, he possesses all of the characteristics, both physical and attitudinal, required to be great with girls.
Tall, decent-looking, well-dressed and with a great line in verbal banter, he was always going to be a contender.
But on top of that, he also displays clear “dark triadic” characteristics: narcissism, Machiavellianism and psychopathy.
It is these characteristics, in my view, which have really sealed his success with the opposite sex.
Entirely casting aside the old advice about not shitting where you eat, Rick has had several very high-profile relationships in the office.
One was with an attractive young girl of about twenty-five called Zoe, whom he dated for two years or so.
During that time he bought her a breast enlargement.
He even moved in with her, but at around the eighteen month mark he showed signs of becoming bored and moved out again, although the pair continued to sleep together.
Then he began seeing Chloe—concurrently. This led to a huge public break-up with Zoe that was broadcast on social media and beyond.
For a good while, Rick and Chloe seemed to enjoy the perfect relationship.
Chloe, who, at 36 was blond and still very attractive, had apparently brought about a great change in Rick’s life.
It appeared that Rick had finally “grown up”, “manned up™” and “done the right thing™”. Chloe had “tamed him” and that now, finally, he was ready to put aside his philandering ways in order to commit to a “high-quality woman™”
At the end of last year Rick and Chloe got married. It was a very expensive ceremony at an exclusive country house venue. The black and white photographs showed the well-groomed pair stepping joyfully into this new phase of their lives.
The look of victory on Chloe’s face was striking.
Their joy lasted for approximately six months. Recently it came to light that Rick had been sleeping with a very attractive 22-year-old intern, Emily, also from the office.
Understandably all hell broke loose and Chloe threw Rick out of the marital home.
But she was prepared to forgive him. For a while they tried to work it out—right up until the moment Chloe discovered Rick was still having sex with Emily on the quiet.
Now Chloe has resigned her position at work, too humiliated to return. Rick is unrepentant, enjoying his affair with the much younger woman, and seemingly not concerned about attempting to save the marriage.
The fact that they spent something like £60,000 on the big day itself makes the whole thing even more ridiculous.
After The Playboy Lifestyle You Can’t Put It Back In The Bottle
The difficulty for both men and women is that once you’ve tasted variety, and realised that there is an infinite number of potential sexual partners out there, it becomes very hard to stick with just one person for the rest of your life.
Monogamy and whether or not it is a natural state has been debated frequently elsewhere.
Whether or not long-term monogamy and happiness were ever truly possible is a moot point.
But today, with smartphones and Tinder and a general and growing acceptance of promiscuity, it’s certainly a hell of a lot more difficult.
As a man, this is something worth bearing in mind. What is it that you really want?
My writing largely concerns itself with meeting and attracting women. This is an area that fascinates me, as does the interplay between the sexes and the way that it has slowly changed over time.
But of course, there is a darker side to the life of the playboy. You can do what you want, but it’s worth recognising nonetheless.
Women Love Damaged Men
Perhaps there are guys reading this who are jealous of Rick’s ability to draw women to him, even against their own interests: think about the risk of social ostracisation that Emily took order to have sex with him.
Unfortunately though, the story simply confirms that many (most?) women are attracted to damaged men. Rick’s high quotient of the dark triad of characteristics make him irresistible.
But it is these same characteristics that mark him out as unsuitable for monogamy.
Perhaps Rick has no problem with that. But you should certainly think carefully about what your life goals are and move towards them strategically.
If you want to succumb to the pleasures of promiscuity then I salute you. But realise at the same time that this will make it harder, not easier, for you to “settle down™” later, if that suddenly seems like a good idea.
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Originally published on ROK
