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For centuries, women have been considered mysterious. Poets, philosophers, and psychologists have all tried to work out exactly what it is that makes them tick.
Of course, the reason such eminent men put in all that effort in the first place is because, like the rest of us, they wanted to get laid.
It is the lot of all men to have to figure out girls if we hope to be intimate with them.
Fortunately, the internet has facilitated something that most people could never have foreseen: the ability for guys to share their experiences and compare notes on a grand scale. This has happened on blogs and websites for over a decade. The cloak of relative anonymity offered by the net has enabled it.
Whereas previously shame prevented men from talking openly about their experiences, even with close friends, now hundreds of thousands across the world can tell it like it is.
Striking and somewhat depressing is how similar and predictable a lot of the stories are. Girls flaking on guys, cheating, and walking out on them when a better opportunity presented itself too.
So it wasn’t just me!
Slowly I improved my knowledge of the dynamics between men and women and learned to deal with it better.
Here are 5 things I learned, through reading, through the experiences of friends, and through personal experience.
1. Girls have sex quickly and easily with the ‘right’ guy
There is this “Madonna-whore” idea that there are “bad girls” who will have sex indiscriminately, and “good girls” who hold out for the right guy.
It’s a meme inculcated into us by the culture. It’s also nonsense: Madonnas and the Whores are the same girls.
You may be aware of an article written by Tyler Durden (Owen Cook) of RSD many years ago called “The Secret Society”. If not, you should check it out. It contains the kind of wisdom that makes a lot of sense on paper, but only becomes real when you go out and date girls in real life.
The gist of it is that if you are a guy who “gets it,” and sub-communicates that he “gets it,” then girls will have sex with you quickly, easily and without putting up all of the obstacles that lesser men have to contend with.
This goes for all girls—not just stereotypical “bad girls” with tattoos, bleached hair and those transparent stripper heels; but also the nice girl in the library with the glasses and the cardigan.
If you present yourself as a badboy player rather than as a provider simp, then even good girls will get intimate with you quickly.
This is simply a fact. A while back I hooked up with the most innocent-looking girl you can imagine. I took her out, and was careful to dial up my “secret society” indicators.
Not only did she sleep with me on the first night, but she continued to do so, in secret, for months afterwards, even after she began seeing another guy.
This phenomenon blows the lid off any fantasies of finding that “one special girl™” to fall in love with and protect and honour through thick and skin.
Women’s sexuality is neither good nor bad, it simply is. It is something men can enjoy too, when they learn the game.
But you need to open your eyes to the reality of how things really are.
2. She has a timetable
So, you met a cute girl and now you’re having regular sex.
Great—so now you’re on easy street, no longer having to compete for female attention in busy clubs and bars, instead enjoying a quiet life of satiation.
Wrong!
However casual, free, and easy things may seem, make no mistake, your girl has a timetable.
If you pass her tests and she likes you enough then she will start making moves to make the relationship official.
This will often involve her keeping increasing tabs on you and wanting more and more attention from you (often to the detriment of your friends).
The endgame of all of this?
Babies.
I’m sorry, but it’s true. While men are happy to coast along, enjoying the sex and the good times, women are at the mercy of old Father Time.
Make no mistake, she’s not there to “go with the flow” or “just have fun and see where it goes.” She has a very real timetable (consciously or not).
I’m not saying that this is conscious. But the purpose of long-term male-female sexual relationships in a woman’s eyes is reproduction. Not companionship, not “discovering each other”, and not growing old together. Children.
If this isn’y what you want then you must decide how and when to end the relationship.
3. But she will lose attraction for you (slowly) if you supplicate.
Ironically, the more you accede to what she wants, the more likely it is she will lose attraction for you (over the long term, at least).
She had sex with you in the first place because she was attracted to your masculine qualities. The more you alter yourself and become domesticated, the less you will resemble that hot, untameable guy she originally she thought you were.
At this point, there is a decent chance she might cheat on you if the right guy comes along.
This phenomenon is real and inescapable—unless you are thoroughly prepared and vigilant.
4. She won’t look like that forever
Guys are beset with a strange kind of logical failure that kicks in when they meet a cute girl.
If she is twenty-three years old, and she is an eight, then there is a good chance he will want to try to cash in his chips and depart from the table with his winnings by marrying her.
Often this turns out to be a mistake.
Look, we all know damn well that the hot 23-year-old isn’t going to look the same when she’s 50.
But we all still want to lock the 23-year-old down.
It doesn’t make any sense.
Women’s youthful beauty is bait which reels men in.
But as we all know, looks are only skin deep. And they are most certainly nothing to base a long-term relationship on.
Perhaps you believe your special snowflake to be so special that you don’t care about what she looks like in ten, twenty years time. Fine—if that’s genuinely true.
But at least be aware that her looks WILL fade (as will yours). Don’t get bedazzled by a shiny object like so many other fools.
5. She doesn’t necessarily care about you
She has a timetable. You are there to help her fulfil it. She doesn’t necessarily care that much about you personally, no matter what she says.
Women are pragmatic, men are romantic. Think of the film producer who cares little about the cast as long as the movie gets made on time.
I once had a girlfriend who told me that she would die for me. She was becoming too clingy, so we split up. After I told her I couldn’t see her anymore, she sent me messages every day for a month telling me how upset she was, how special I was, how much she wanted me back.
In the face of this barrage, I softened. Perhaps she really did love me as she said. Tentatively, I suggested a meeting. Maybe we could talk. Perhaps I had been too hasty.
Her response?
“I can’t see you. I’m with someone else now.”
I had been replaced. Whatever “special” qualities I possessed had quickly and easily been found in another man.
All of this is not intended to be cynical. I’m not saying that ‘woman are to blame’—I think that, if anything, men mess up dating more than women. And neither gender is ‘bad’—human nature is what it is, that’s all.
But I also believe that forewarned is forearmed, and that a realistic grasp gender dynamics is essential.
By all means go out and enjoy your dating life, but be vigilant, and make sure that your needs are accounted for as well as hers.
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Originally published on ROK
