Clubbing every night can be a lot of fun in the short term, and, if you are persistent, it WILL get you results
However, it is also a time-sap and and energy sap too, and isn’t sustainable in the medium-long term.
Therefore, the best solution is ‘holistic game’ – that is, taking an ‘always on’ approach to meeting girls, and using a combination of daygame, nightgame, social circle game and even dating apps to maximise your opportunities.
But before we delve into that a little deeper, let me tell you a story.
Sex
I was a virgin when I was 20 years old. I was at university in Manchester, UK at the time. And because I was also a very addictive type (I had problems for a long time with alcohol and drugs before I straightened out at 27), I too would go clubbing pretty much every night. In Manchester at that time (the 90s) that was pretty easy to do, and a lot of fun.
I even started working in clubs to supplement my meagre student funds.
The downsides of this approach were manifold: the drink and the other crap I used wrecked my body (and later, for a while, my life – not recommended). I was tired all the time and flunked college. I also became somewhat disengaged from how ‘normal’ society operated outside the clubs.
However, on the positive side:
– Previously a bookish introvert, I blasted through my shyness
– I became 1000% more confident as I approached every girl in every club I went to
– I became SIGNIFICANTLY less bothered by rejection
– I learned a hell of a lot about the sexual marketplace
– I (often) had a blast and
– I had sex
Yes, the first girl I ever slept with (aged 20) was a very pretty young lady I met through night game.
Had I not hit the clubs so hard would it have happened? Not with her, no. But there’s a more important lens through which to view it. Had I stuck to my previous, library-bound, nerd lifestyle it is possible that I might have ended up meeting a sympathetic and desperate 6 and getting married young (out of scarcity mentality).
Would that have been a good outcome?
Absolutely not.
While it is certainly not the healthiest or most wholesome lifestyle choice, going clubbing a lot when you are young actually does you many favours. It will make you sharper, harder, more alive to the cruelties and glories of the sexual marketplace, and more adept at handling them. It will also open out your personality, exposing you to sights and experiences that will give you an edge over the chode who sits at home reading all night and looking at 6s on match.com
The increasingly sexualised attitude that you will acquire as a result of going clubbing a lot will linger on you like an exotic aroma perceptible to girls, and this will improve your game in other situations too. Your daygame approaches (when you start to do them) will have more edge, as will your social circle game and your ‘date game’.
In fact, I would go as far as to say that I owe at least a portion of the success that I have had in dating AND in business to the clubbing that I did as a young man, since it helped to realign my personality in a manner that was more finely tuned to the harsh realities of human interactions at the sharp ends of sex and commerce.
All of that said, a few words of warning. For one thing, avoid excessive use of stimulants when you are out (including, of course, alcohol). There is no need to drink just because you are in a club. As mentioned, I gave up when I was 27 and have been to clubs thousands of times since then sober. I just drink water and it makes no difference.
Second, as I said at the top, an holistic approach will be more sustainable in the longer term. Also, it just makes sense. A business with only one stream of income is vulnerable, right? Well, so it is with dating. Have multiple streams of potential ‘income’. Give daygame a go. And of course, develop your social circle. Hell, even try Tinder and Bumble.
A third thing to note in burning out your locale. If you are based in a very small town then the reality is you have to be cautious about ‘getting a reputation’.
And in the end, if you want to stay in the game, you have to move. Harsh but true. There’s a reason why all the best-known global players honed their craft in large metropolitan areas.
More volume = more opportunities = more results.
It really is as simple as that.
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