‘Spinning plates’, if you don’t know, is when a guy has more than one girl on his roster at the same time. More than one girl he’s sleeping with, that is.
In most cases it works like this. The guy begins dating girl A (who he’s met through daygame, Tinder, whatever) but he doesn’t get exclusive with her. Then he meets girl B and starts seeing her once / twice a week as well. In time he may meet girls C & D too. He will continue adding girls until he is full to capacity, and has no time to see any more.
How many ‘plates’ the player spins is of course entirely up to him, and depends significantly on his lifestyle and needs. At one time a few years ago I was seeing 5 girls at the same time. While it definitely had its upsides, the experience was, on the whole, incredibly draining (in more ways than one).
When you’re working a demanding full-time job and then having to take time out to sleep with different girls every night of the week then you’re likely to hit burnout point pretty soon.
But you don’t need to take it to such an extreme. Even seeing two girls (a main girl and a side girl) is sufficient to meet the definition of ‘spinning plates’.
But isn’t it dishonest / dishonourable? some will ask.
Well, no, not really. You see, the whole point of spinning plates is that you don’t promise anything to anyone.
You resist the normal moment that comes up in any male-female romantic relationship when one of the parties (normally the girl) says something like ‘Let’s sit down and talk about US, and where this is GOING’.
The newbie will fall into this trap easily, and will end up in a verbal contract as the girl’s boyfriend. The player, who’s been through the dance many, many times already, will not. And because he hasn’t promised girl A exclusivity then he is entirely at liberty to sleep with girl B as many times as he wants.
Where this falls down is that, after a certain amount of time, and if you do things like sleep over with girls, take them to the cinema, to restaurants and so on, then you are at risk of becoming the de facto boyfriend: that is, even thought you may not have had ‘the conversation’, you have effectively signed the deal with your actions.
Spinning Plates – The Benefits
Putting that to one side, though, what are the benefits of spinning plates?
The first, and perhaps most important, is sexual variety. It is well-known that men are characterised by the need to ‘spread their seed’ far and wide. Men crave sexual variety as a result. So much so that even if a guy is sleeping regularly with a Victoria’s Secret model he will still desire other women, and on a long enough timeline he will probably cheat.
The second benefit is that when you are spinning plates you cannot, by definition, get cheated on.
That is not to say that ‘your’ girls are not enjoying their own sexual variety with other guys elsewhere. It simply means that because you are not her ‘boyfriend’, you should not care whether she is or not.
Guys make the mistake – willingly – of putting themselves into the boyfriend frame. They do this because they like the girl in question and they want to ‘lock her down’. But in doing so they lock themselves down. Once you are her boyfriend the stakes are raised. You can be cheated on. You can be dumped. And even before those things happen you have probably initiated the process of her losing attraction for you.
When you are spinning plates, everything remains unspoken. Yes, she probably has an inkling you are seeing other girls, but that can make it more exciting for her anyway. Yes, there’s a chance she might be seeing other guys – but you don’t ask, since you are busy with your side girls, and she doesn’t tell.
In the end, ‘plates’ tend to fall off as girls require more commitment or find a brighter, shinier option elsewhere. But that should not matter to you either – after all, you are constantly refilling your pipeline, and as a result you will always have more plates to add to your roster.
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