Game is no longer dirty enough. What was once a discipline that helped men to meet and have sex with women has been politicised and augmented with so much bullshit that it is now barely recognisable.
This does no one any good.
I got into game properly back in 2005, nearly 14 years ago. Prior to that I’d been chasing girls in the clubs since the early 1990s, but in an untutored, instinctive way.
It was only when I moved back to London from Manchester and went through a 6 month dry spell before picking up a copy of The Game by Neil Strauss that I learned that there was a structure to human courtship that could be studied. And that one really could improve one’s chances in the dating marketplace.
Back in 2005, the ‘game’ scene in London was an interesting, colourful place inhabited by all kinds of eccentric characters. In fact, it was rather like wandering into a Dickens novel, albeit one where the characters wore flashing neon belts and eyeliner to Tiger Tiger on a Thursday night.
The scene in London at that time was essentially a nerdy one. A lot of the guys on the LSS (the London Seduction Society, a popular forum at the time) were Dungeons And Dragons-types, for whom game literally was a game—a series of hacks one could apply to get to the next level of “GIRLS”.
It was a crowd of misfits and outcasts that spawned some characters who would later become prominent in the game universe—Tom Torero for one, as well as Adam Lyons, Richard de la Ruina, Beckster, Ryan who went on to work for RSD, and others
There were also strange and bizarre eccentrics, like the long-haired dude whose name escapes me who was essentially homeless and who used to go out daygaming in Soho every day in order to meet a girl who might give him a bed for the night.
And then there was my friend Dr Yen, a punky Italian guy who was into the BDSM scene, pulling girls in gay clubs, and who first took me to London’s Torture Garden.
As for me, I had always been something of an outsider, and my preferences in literature and music reflected that. I loved the decadent literature of the late 19th century (Baudelaire, Rimbaud, Wilde, Huysmans and so on), as well as 19th century romantic classical music, the Sex Pistols, and The Libertines.
Pete Doherty was very prominent back then, and I liked to mentally connect his grubby, street-urchin persona with that of the playboy, who was also a libertine—a hustler with a heart of gold, a flaneur, a man dedicated to the cause of pleasure above all else.
Imagine the playboy Rip Van Winkle, who, having fallen asleep in the grimy streets of Soho in 2005 in his skinny black jeans and cuban heels, now awakes in late 2018 and surveys the scene around him. What does he see? Clean-cut men advocating lifting, reading self-help books, clean living, nutrition, Christianity, marriage, and conservative politics.
And faced with all of that, you really couldn’t blame him for necking a Zopiclone and going back to bed.
Get More Sex
Game was always about sex, you see (well, duh!) It is about men wanting to learn more about female psychology and the specific modes of behaviour that will help them to get more sex.
Although that statement is no doubt profoundly politically-incorrect these days, it’s not particularly controversial—after all, it is a simple biological truth that men are programmed to want sex with multiple women. This is simply the way of things. And game was / is the instruction manual that many of us were missing.
For what it’s worth, I have never regarded game itself as misogynist in the least. It is merely a set of tools through which a man learns to communicate high value to women. How he uses those tools is up to him. If he happens to be a misogynist then this will come through in his interactions. But for the most part, far from hating women, playboys love them excessively—too much.
That said, it’s not surprising in the least that feminists have taken issue with game. That is only to be expected. What is strange, though, is the way that a fifth column of men within game itself have sought to wrest it from its grimy, sexy, punk roots, and transform it into something quite different.
Trump
Let’s be upfront about this—there is no doubt that ‘game’ has been almost entirely hijacked by right-wing voices—you might even say far right voices. And with that, we have seen over the years the introduction of elements that are entirely antithetical to the very essence of game, notably Christianity and clean living.
The dominance of game by the right of course reflects wider political issues that we needn’t go into in great detail here (Trump, Orban, Salvini, Brexit etc). And what it has spawned is otherwise intelligent men having to perform ridiculous mental gymnastics in an effort to square an impossible circle—to somehow equate promiscuity and fucking with ‘traditional values’.
This was always going to be a tough job, which is why we are now seeing former players disavow game as immoral—better just to walk away from the scene of the crime and pretend one was never there.
But to the extent that it has infected mainstream game discussion, it is at best a distraction for newcomers, and at worst damaging.
I feel a great deal of sympathy for the 18 year old who Googles ‘how to get better with women’ in 2018, and instantly falls down a rabbit hole of Trump, ‘shadowy global elites’ and other nutbag tinfoil hat fodder.
What happened to just wanting to get laid? What do racism and conspiracy theories have to do with meeting girls?
If these had been present when I’d first discovered game in 2005 I would have turned my back on it immediately—which I’m sure a great many guys do today. And who can blame them?
Dirty Game
Let’s be honest. Game is the polar opposite of ‘traditional, conservative values’. It is about sex. It is about promiscuity. It is about a decadent indulgence in the libidinal. It is dirty—and that should be celebrated, not suppressed.
Vis-a-vis the politicisation of game, there has long been this view: ‘Once you understand the true nature of women and sex, then you start to realise the truth about everything else, too.’
Well . . . no. It simply doesn’t follow that because you have learned some basic aspects of evolutionary biology that were never a secret anyway that you must now also swallow everything that some fat fuck, trans-porn obsessed conspiracy theorist spouts.
It doesn’t mean you have to wear a MAGA hat.
It doesn’t mean you have to support Brexit.
Most importantly, none of these things will help you in your goal of getting better with women. They are at best a distraction, for game is fundamentally apolitical, in that it has nothing whatsoever to do with party politics. It is only concerned with the politics of erotically-charged encounters, quite a different thing.
The sad fact is that by tainting game with a bunch of irrelevant bullshit, prominent members of the community have done more damage than good.
Which is a shame. Because the simple truth is that men get into game because they want sex, or more sex, or sex with more attractive girls, or sex with multiple girls at the same time. And while this may be unpopular from an SJW perspective, the fact that men themselves can’t stand up and own it is at best dishonest, and at worst feels suspiciously like appeasement.
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