In your darkest hour, when you are most alone, when you feel friendless, when hope is little more than a memory, there is only one thing you can do: carry on There is a saying. It goes ‘when you’re going through hell, keep going.’ It’s all you can do. Whatever lifestyle you choose there will be times …
Below is an extract from my soon-to-be-released new book on game and dating for the 40+ guy…. ****** So you hit 40—congratulations. Or maybe you passed that particular milestone a few years ago. You reached a summit in life: up here the land looks different while remaining strangely the same. What to do? You …
It is hard for me to think of an author who has had a greater influence on me throughout my life than George Orwell. When I was a kid I read Animal Farm and then all of the essays very early on. I remember wanting to read 1984 for ages, and my dad telling me that …
Readers who follow me on Twitter will doubtless be aware that I often retweet the mischievous, erotic, literary and sometimes cryptic utterances of a shadowy internet figure who calls himself Dr Ernst Gräfenberg (the pseudonym is taken from the man who first discovered the G Spot). While Dr Gräfenberg is not a pickup artist …
I’ve just uploaded a new episode of The Modern Casanova podcast called The Endgame of Game. You can listen to it here Game is now reaching middle age with many of the original players in their late thirties, forties or even older. Does that mean a generation of men who won’t settle down and will …
There was a plastic carrier bag of vomit in the cupboard beside my bed. It had been there for over a week. The stench of it thickened up the air in my room. I was in bed. The sheets were dirty, of course. They’d remained unwashed for many weeks. I was half-awake but I was in a …
Today I maxed out my sociability. I had a business breakfast with two female clients. I had a business lunch with two female colleagues, a female client and two male clients. I then chaired a 12-step recovery meeting of about 50 people. Then I went to dinner with a male friend and flirted with three …
She said I looked like Daniel Craig. I said she looked like she needed a good spanking. She said I had a lot of imagination. I said these days it was important to be creative. She said she had many hidden talents—particularly in the bedroom. I said I bet she did. She said she was …
Corporate work is a huge timesuck: this is not breaking news. Everyone is aware of this fact. Instead of spending your time doing something you love, or even something that you are kind of ‘meh’ about—but at least it’s your something on your own terms—corporate work demands of most people that they do something they …
I was arrogant and sure of myself and maybe it wasn’t justified quite yet. But I had an excuse. I knew my potential. I had rock solid, immovable confidence in it. I knew what I could be, what I would be. And in a way I was already it—it’s just the rest of the world …
