An excerpt from my forthcoming book on the bachelor lifestyle:
This is one of the most common objections that gets brought up in regard to the renegade playboy lifestyle: if you continue to live in this way and advocate this kind of lifestyle then inevitably you will end up sad, lonely and 100% miserable.
Well, it sounds plausible, doesn’t it? If you forgo marriage and settling down long term with someone, then it stands to reason that at the end of your life you’ll be . . . well, without a partner.
But does it necessarily follow that you’ll be lonely? No, of course it doesn’t.
Now at this point I’m tempted to throw in countless anecdotal examples of men I know who are in their 60s and 70s who are unmarried and who are having a great time. Some of these men—like my uncle—are close family members. Others are guys I’ve met through work and through the large international organisation of which I’m a part.
I can honestly say that these dudes are some of the happiest I’ve ever met. They have full control of their lives, and can do whatever they want with their time. So for example, my uncle spends most of his time skiing in different destinations around the world and posting the photographs on Facebook and Instagram. He has mini-relationships with different women and overall has a wonderful, carefree life.
Another guy that I know is a writer in his seventies, and although he has girlfriends, he always stops short at the point of allowing them to live with him. Well, why would he? He has something far more important to do—his creative work. He knows full well that allowing a woman to move in with him will simply take up too much time, create unnecessary drama and basically mess everything up for him.
One difficulty, I think, is that we look at older people and we can’t—for a long time—imagine being their age ourselves. And I’m not just talking about octogenarians. When I was in my teens I couldn’t ever picture being twenty. And when I was in my twenties I couldn’t ever imagine my 30th birthday.
And yet those milestones came and went—and I didn’t feel any different inside myself at all. At 30 I still wanted the same things as I did at 20. And at 40 nothing much had changed either.
What makes you think it will be any different for you when you hit those various milestones in life yourself? And what makes me think that 50 or 60 will be any different in my case?
You might argue that I am simply a deeply immature fool (and I’m not saying you’d be entirely wrong) but the reality is that most men, deep down, want the same things. For one, as we’ve discussed, their sexual strategies remains unlimited access to unlimited sexuality (i.e. sleeping with as many attractive girls as possible) Beyond that we also want to create—-we want to do work that we love. We want to build.
I, for example, love writing, and it’s always been my sole ambition to be a writer. That being the case. I know deep in my being that domesticity of any kind will kill my dream. How? Because I’ve already tried it, and I’ve already seen how living with a girl can seriously dent my ability to spend time writing.
My desire to write has been there since I was around 4 years old, 40 years ago, and I don’t imagine it will change much in the future. Similarly, my desire to sleep with attractive girls, a desire that emerged when I was in my late teens, also remains a constant, and I don’t see that going away either.
So while people project this idea that when we are ‘old’ (whatever that means) we will have wildly different tastes and desires, in my experience and observation that seems not to be the case at all.
In fact, if anything I have become even more fixed on my own interests and desires as I’ve got older, making the idea of marriage of settling into an LTR even less appealing.
Of course, that is not to say that one can do without affection or companionship—quite the opposite. These things are absolutely essential for everyone. And it is precisely for this reason that I always preach that you need to enlarge your social circle. You need a crew—-and quick, if you don’t already have one. You’ve got to get yourself into a position where you are not merely relying on one person for your emotional needs. Which is precisely why a tight group of strong male friends is so hugely important.
OK, so it’s not ‘the same’ as having a woman to cuddle up next to in bed at night. Well, what of it? Are you a man or a mouse?
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