I am not very good with emotions, and as I get older I can’t see that improving. The tricky thing about life is that it means interacting with other human beings—our parents, our siblings, our extended family, friends, lovers, spouses and so on. All of which is a bit of a fucker, quite frankly. Underneath my renegade …
The problem with the safe route is that it may not be the safe route anymore. In fact it almost certainly isn’t. We all get stuck in our comfort zones. We all have this idea of who we are, or what our lives should look like, of the things we need around us to be, …
Some arguments you aren’t ever going to win. Sometimes, however right you are, you’re wrong. There was this girl I worked with. This bitch. She didn’t like me. I had thought she was OK, or at least, I was neutral, but she didn’t like me. Or she began not liking me when we were forced …
The one mistake that truly successful people never make is simple: they do not allow their consistent dedication to their life’s mission to drop. Not ever. Not even for a single day. You must ensure that you are the same. If you allow the consistency with which you attack any given task to falter then …
Always be actively for something, or actively against it. Yes, you will alienate some, but you will win many more over. Being neutral is synonymous with being forgettable. The above quote, about being actively for or against something, was my most popular in the last seven days, receiving something like 17k impressions and 240 ‘engagements’ …
Conspiracy theory is not really a topic I want to delve into deeply on this site, since it’s somewhat negative and just not what I’m about. Nevertheless, a lot of the men’s ‘self-development’ space is currently dominated by a vocal minority of people who buy into conspiratorial narratives. For that reason I want to share …
Like a lot of people, I am addicted to coffee. I know this because my relationship to it is not solely defined by how it tastes and the effect it has. There is also a ritualistic aspect to my coffee consumption too. Coffee is the one ‘vice’ that I let myself off the hook about. …
I’ve lived in Central London for nearly six months now. It’s a childhood dream, since I’ve always loved this city, and previously I’ve only lodged in outlying areas. Right now, when I go downstairs and open the front door I walk straight out onto Shaftesbury Avenue, slap bang in the middle of the West End and …
If you haven’t heard it yet, I strongly encourage you to listen to my podcast from last Friday, which was an interview with daygame legend PAUL JANKA. Paul and I had a great chat about game, sex, love and the meaning of life itself! You can hear the podcast on my SoundCloud page here, or on iTunes here. …
I first came to London to live properly fifteen years ago. By properly I mean deep within the city of London, not out on the hinterlands, where I’d grown up as a teenager. For the first six months I was very lonely—I didn’t know that many people here—and I saw a lot of things. Those …
