Here’s the truth—shy, self-effacing men do not do well with beautiful women. Why? Because their whole demeanour screams ‘low value’.
After all, if you are not at least a little in love with yourself then why should she be?
There’s a girl I know, Karina. She works in one of the big department stores in London. Her customers are millionaires and billionaires. Generally she serves women, since she works in the womenswear department, but she frequently comes into contact with their husbands.
Often, when the wives’ backs are turned, these men will pass her their telephone numbers.
Of course, generally she discards these numbers since the men are old, unattractive, and socially-inept. Nevertheless, don’t imagine for a moment that she is unaware of her sexual power.
These near-daily advances are just one reminder that she is at her peak. Another is the constant ping of ‘likes’ on her cellphone, as amorous men from all over the world double-tap her Instagram pictures. And finally, of course, there is the general attention that she gets each day simply walking down the street.
It is the daily experience of a beautiful young woman to be constantly reminded of her high value. And as a result, she is likely to look unfavourably on a come-on from anyone she regards as ‘less than’ her. Which is 99.9% of men.
After all, if you were told everyday by everyone that you were a ‘9’ (whatever that means), then would you willingly entertain anything with a woman designated a ‘6’?
No, probably not. Why should you? You would just wait for an equal 9 to come along, or you would chase after 10s instead.
(Yes, I recognise that the numbering system is not to everyone’s taste. I don’t like it myself since it is so subjective, but I’m just making a point).
This may well seem callous (and indeed it is), but, well, welcome to planet earth stranger. The reality is that people—men and women—act from self-interest more than they do out of charity. Especially in the case of something as intimate and personally important as sex.
That being the case, the only viable strategy is to present yourself as high value—and if possible higher value than her.
There are many ways of doing this, most of them what (to miscontextualise DJ Demarco’s Millionaire Fastlane) might be called ‘slowlane’ strategies. Earn ten million dollars. Buy a Lambo. Wear designer clothes. A watch that costs £25,000. All of that kind of thing.
These are what the average man imagine will draw women to him. And in some cases he’s right. Those strategies will work on certain girls. But you have to be careful. You will be putting yourself in the ‘provider’ box, which is not what you want.
What you want, as a renegade playboy, is exciting ‘lover sex’. And you don’t need expensive trinkets to get that.
Extreme self-love is the aphrodisiac that renegade playboys favour. It lingers on them like an expensive cologne. It is discernible by women in the streets, in the department stores, and in the dark lounge bars at night. And it draws them in with its strange alchemy.
Develop extreme self-love—or narcissism, as it better expressed—and you will never want for female company. Why? Simple:
- If you love yourself so much, she will calculate, you must have some reason for doing so, i.e. you must be ‘pre-selected’ by other women.
- You contrast favourably with the other yammering, self-effacing chodes she meets with distressing regularity.
- It is more masculine. Did the ancient warrior love himself? Yes, of course. Look at all those statues of ancient Greeks. These guys were narcissistic as hell. Male self-love is something we see reflected in art down the ages. For some reason, it has only recently fallen out of favour with the ‘Blue Harbour clothing, IKEA on a Saturday morning’ band of contemporary chin-strokers. Don’t be one of those guys.
The cocky-as-hell, self-obsessed man will always attract more admirers than his self-effacing colleagues—it is a simple fact of life. Developing that kind of panache is of course the challenge, however, to get there I would encourage you simply to spend more time alone, considering your goals and your strengths. Various techniques can help with this:
- Meditation (yes, that old chestnut again)
- Journalling (ditto)
- Visualisation (of the journey you are on and where it will inevitably lead you)
- Affirmations (the nearest thing the non-user can get to a cocaine high)
Here is my experience: the more that I do these things, and the more that my own inevitable rise to greatness is clear to me, the more that I attract women naturally without really having to do anything.
You see, journalling and writing in particular focus me forensically on my own path. And that form of narrow selfishness itself begets a kind of narcissism which is supremely attractive to other people. In part this may simply be because, as a result of these activities, I am extremely, narrowly obsessed with myself to the exclusion of almost everything else.
Most people are not like this. Most people are not myopic, but rather, they are outward looking and egalitarian. And when you go against the grain you create a schism in the normal way of things which causes you to stand out, and to become attractive as a result.
A Narcissistic Personal Brand
All of this, by the way, is precisely why I created my own personal brand online. Because for nearly a year now, everything I have done, at work and at play, has been in service to that brand—the ‘Troy Francis’ brand—which consists solely of telling my life story online.
A personal brand business is in some ways the most egotistical type you can create—but it is also the type of business that allows you to live your life as yourself most honestly and freely.
Here’s what I mean. Say you start a dropshipping business (and no offence to the drop-shippers out there—it’s a great model, just not for me). OK, you may start making some cash. But you are spending your day researching suppliers of goods you might well not be very interested in, and tinkering with Facebook ads, dealing with customer feedback and so on.
OK, it could be lucrative (if you choose a decent niche), but let’s be honest…the nuts and bolts of the work are not your heart’s desire. You’re only doing it for the money.
Whereas, when you start a personal brand business, you are actively working to monetize the life you would want to lead anyway.
So, for example, if your interest is in meeting girls:
- You will create content around meeting girls and the stories that come out of it (as I have).
- You will then publish that content in order to attract an audience to your work.
- And once you have an audience, you will find out what products they want from you, and sell to them.
It’s really that simple . . . and that narcissistic!
It’s little wonder that so many renegade playboys favour the ‘personal brand’ model over any other type of business. It’s certainly the method that I’ve used to escape from the corporate grind and live a life which, frankly, has been incredible so far . . . and continues to be so.
PERSONAL BRAND MASTERY
My new course PERSONAL BRAND MASTERY, which explains exactly how you can go from a position of having a regular job to establishing your own personal brand and monetizing it to the point where you can ditch your boss and enjoy a life of freedom working for yourself, is out this Monday 24th September.
However, in the run up to its release I am giving away a strictly limited 10 copies for just $99 to the first 10 people who enrol this week. To find out more, join my daily email subscriber list here.
Hurry, though . . . those ten spots on the course will go very quickly, and the price doubles to $197 on Monday.
