She was beautiful, the girl – 24 years old, sleek blonde hair down her back, sitting chaste with the legs crossed.
The evenings of the bachelor in London look like this. The dark bar with the glitzy red lights, Arabic cushions and throws, and the deep, dark house music. The fake (but expensive) sophistication dreamed up and fabricated in a Mayfair basement. A sophistication that seems generic and secondhand—bought. After all, why are these fancy bars always Arabic or Asian-themed? Are there no other cultures to be mined?
The conversation is fine. Her ex-boyfriend. A multimillionaire. What he did to go from being a restauranteur to make all of that money. The necessity for men to have a mission, to have drive, to build a business.
The Eastern European woman is not generally a feminist. That is not to say that she is a traditionalist, either, but she certainly accepts the notion of differing gender roles. This is interesting. we get a very skewed idea of how others think from the media and Twitter and so on. But when you get out there into the real world you realise that there is far from one dominant view.
Nevertheless, soon the girl begins to bore you. You find yourself covertly looking at the time on your phone, wondering how much longer this will go on for. It is, after all, merely a prelude to intimacy, nothing more.
All of that conversation, as the lights in the bar dim, means nothing. It isn’t supposed to mean anything. It is like a metronome—a beat, marking the time before you leave together. Or not. Depending on the ‘success’ of the meeting.
And time is being expended here, no doubt. That is why you continue to check it. In your mind, you are not focussed on whatever it is she is talking about. In your mind, you are thinking about your business. Because what, after all, can be more important than that.
There comes a point in a man’s life where the balance tips and when the allure of sex with beautiful young women—as alluring as that might be—is subsumed by something else.
Money? Yes. Influence? Undoubtedly. a desire to create something great? Certainly.
Ironically, it is at this point, in his late thirties, or early forties, that the man has the most leverage in the sexual marketplace. When he is most able to attract girls and arrange dates.
This is because he has reached peak attractiveness. Assuming he has kept himself in decent shape, and he is stylishly dressed and so on, and he has something going for him in the career stakes, andhe lives in a big, populous city, then he should have no problem in getting dates. That is the least of his worries.
If he has a system in place – one of holistic game – and he implements it consistently, then his funnel is always going to be full.
At the same time, if he is working hard on creating his empire (which he absolutely should be) then he must think carefully about how much time he expends on the sexual ‘hunt’, and how much on what is more important.
The challenge at this stage is not having too few dates, but having too many.
Now, a new system must be implemented. One of time allotment, or prioritisation, where each girl the player meets must be fitted in somehow (or discarded) depending on the amount of bandwidth he has at that particular time.
So, for example, if he is working on a big product launch for his business, he simply can’t afford the time to go out five nights a week. He has to cut back.
But, this might compromise some of the dating opportunities that he is working on.
After all, when you take a girl’s contact details you only have a relatively small window (in a big city like London, at least) to make take her out and see where it leads. If you don’t take action quickly, the window closes and the opportunity is lost—perhaps forever.
There is a vibrant sexual economy that runs through cities like London and NYC that is as dynamic and mutable as the financial markets, and the player is equivalent to a trader. He puts down a position and then either holds it or sells (lets it go) depending on various factors—quality, price, likely profit etc.
The player is the same way—he has the contact details of various attractive women. These come to him fairly easily as he is out and about. He employs holistic game as he attends to his daily business and he does not necessarily have to spend long periods of time focussed on ‘number farming’ or anything like that.
He must then evaluate these ‘options’, decide on how profitable they are likely to be, and then fit in dates and coffee meetings accordingly.
Sounds like a lot of effort? It certainly can be. If you don’t like the sound of it then don’t move to a big city, and don’t be ambitious for your career at the same time as wanting to maintain a dating life.
Big cities, as we know, are locales of abundance (both sexual and monetary, and in terms of culture and so on). Which is precisely why I am drawn to them like a moth to a flame. But abundance brings with it its own problems, and these the player needs to learn to deal with—through strict prioritisation.
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