Why Your Life Would Be Better If You Thought Less

Your life would be a thousand times better if you thought less.

Right now, you know how it goes. A decision comes up, something on the horizon. Perhaps you need to choose between two job offers. Maybe there are two girls you like and you have to decide which one to go out with at the weekend. Maybe you are in a relationship and trying to work out whether to end it or not. So what do you do?

You think.

You think a lot. You think about this thorny problem day and night. When you wake up in the morning you are firmly inclined one way. By evening, when it’s time to go to bed, you have  changed your mind entirely.

You talk to one friend who you know will give you the kind of answer you want to hear. He almost convinces you. Until the next day when you talk to another friend who has a different point of view.

You do what everyone tells you to do and compile a pros and cons list. That should give you an easy answer, right? Wrong. Because the problem with pros and cons lists is that even if there are more cons than pros, what if there is one single pro that is so powerful that it obviates all of those piddling little cons sitting opposite it?

So you decide to apportion weight to each of your pros and cons. Maybe you use a simple one-to-five scale. But how much to apportion to each entry on your burgeoning list?

You work your list until it gives you one answer (the answer that really, secretly, you actually want). And then the very next day you rework your list until it gives you the exact opposite answer.

It’s enough to drive you mad.

In the end even you become sick of the sound of your own voice. Sick of the sound of you asking the same questions of different people with maybe a 5% variation in syntax and intonation each time.

In the end, the deadline draws near. There is always a deadline. You have to make a decision. And so you decide. This is the course you will take. You are adamant. You are strong. You are implacable, resilient, righteous, brave and alive. You are burning with anxiety that the option you have now committed yourself to is the wrong one.

Wouldn’t life be better if you thought less?

Because here’s the thing. All those decisions that you slaved over, that you spent countless hours applying logic to, parsing late into the night, pulling apart and remodelling like a psychotic Frankenstein—how did they work out for you?

Seriously, think about it now.

After all that thought, all that effort, all that graft, that voracious expenditure of emotional and mental capital, how many of the big decisions you’ve made have turned out either to (a) transform your life utterly so that you find yourself some reality TV world of Dan Bilzerian-style yachts, big-breasted girls and guns; or (b) end with you in penury, sweeping the streets, begging for a florin from passing gentlefolk?

Very few of them, I would wager.

The truth is that a great many of what appear to be the biggest decisions in our lives could be played either way. You could stay with that girl and marry her, or alternatively you could strike out alone and live a life of polyamory.

Neither of those options would prove fatal (in the short to medium terms anyway). Both of them would give you different life experiences. And who is to judge what form of life experience is richer than another, since there is no objective measure of the same?

Have a sense of your direction, have a plan, however loose. But don’t think too much. Don’t paralyse yourself with mindless to-ing and fro-ing, with dismal late-night conversations with friends who don’t know or care what the right answer is and could never know or care enough anyway because they’re not you.

In fact, don’t talk to anyone at all.

Instead, find yourself some solitude. Sit with yourself. Meditate. Pray, even, if you’re so inclined (it doesn’t have to be to a god). Sit with yourself some more. Don’t think. And allow the answers to rise from within you.

You see the body knows what’s best for you. The body knows better than the mind, oftentimes. The truth is that whenever you ask someone for advice you already know what answer you want. Because that answer is a part of you already. It is a part of your body, as tangible as your arm or your leg.

Sit, feel, and allow the answer you seek to reveal itself to you naturally. Which it will, in time.

Trust me: your life would be one thousand times better if you thought less.

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