Well, here we are – we’ve reached New Year’s Day 2023.
How the hell did that happen?
By the way, it’s with some muted sadness that I say goodbye to the Christmas period. Despite my protestations to the contrary, I actually rather like Christmas. It just always seems like such a build-up to not-very-much-really. Rather like my lovemaking. And I often wonder whether, collectively, we’ll all realise it one day and, chastened, moderate our celebrations the next year.
Probably not.
Anyway, regardless, here we are in 2023. A new vista stretches out before all of us. A wonderful blank canvas has been proffered to us, on which we are invited to paint a masterpiece. Or to daub it in drab colours and meaningless shapes. The choice is in our hands.
Of course, in a wider sense, ‘New Year’ is entirely meaningless. The calendar is a man-made set of arbitrary measurements that don’t make a jot of difference to nature and to the the physical – or metaphysical – worlds, which will carry on regardless, thank you very much.
But in a psychological sense the new year is important. It feels like a new beginning. As though a new chapter has commenced. As though a whole new realm of possibilities has opened up before us. As though this, finally, is the opportunity we have been waiting for to really make a change in our lives.
And since our feelings to a large extent constitute our ‘reality’ then today really could be the start of an entirely new phase in our lives.
The key challenge, though, is to harness the new energy and enthusiasm that we are feeling and to use it to create momentum and positive change – whether that’s in dating or in business or whatever.
But the very first step, as always, must be getting very clear on what it is we actually want in all the key areas of our lives.
Because without even knowing what we are aiming for, how can we possibly formulate plans to go out and obtain it?
That being the case, it’s worth completing the following exercise today at some point.
Grab a piece of paper and a pen and go sit somewhere quietly, on your own.
Make a series of columns and write down each of the most important life areas that you would like to influence on it. These might include (but are not limited to):
Dating | Work | Fitness | Travel | Spirituality | etc.
Now, under each heading, I want you – in a few words – to sketch out where you would like to be by the end of 2023.
What peak experiences would you like to have enjoyed?
What tangible ‘results’ would you like to have seen?
If you were telling the story of 2023 next New Years’ Eve, what key ‘boasts’ would you like to be able to make?
For example:
Dating
I had 3-4 new dates per month every month in 2023.
I met some very cool new women.
I travelled to these amazing destinations with them . . . .
Work
In 2023 I scaled my business to past mid six-figures.
I launched a new book / product that sold in incredible numbers.
I increased my market share by X%
Fitness
I have reduced my body fat to X%
I have reached these personal bests . . .
I have gained this % of muscle mass
Thinking about where you would like to be – and most importantly, actually writing it down – is a powerful exercise for focussing the mind on your future success.
You see, the human mind is an incredibly powerful instrument.
And we can achieve far more than we imagine.
After all, if there’s something you would like in your own life, and someone else has already achieved the same thing (or something like it) then that’s proof that it can be done.
And how did that other person do it?
They are not superhuman.
They are just a person, like you, with roughly the same tools and capabilities.
The only difference – if there is one – is the degree of focus and persistence they have applied to the endeavour.
But such focus and persistence is entirely within your grasp.
You must simply get very clear on what it is you want to achieve first.
Because without that clarity you have nothing to aim for.
Research shows that writing – particularly writing by hand – is a great way of ‘fixing’ that clarity in your mind. Of making it real.
So take the time to do the exercise today.
A final note. ‘New Years’ Resolutions’ get a bad rap – usually from people who have no idea about the power of setting intentions. But these are not really resolutions. They are instead statements about the progress you would like to make.
And that’s a worthwhile thing to consider at any time of year.
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