How Controlling Your Emotions Leads To Success In Dating And Business

Control your emotions and not only will you control your life, but you will also position yourself to achieve massive success.

That, at least, is my belief and it is the central premise of all of my writing

Think about those times when you have tried to do something (anything, whether it be chat up a girl, start a business, complete a university assignment, whatever) but you failed.

Now think about why you failed.

I’m willing to bet that in nearly every case an emotional response of some kind on your part had a hand in the failure.

For example—you saw a cute girl on the train but you failed to approach her. Why? Because of fear—well, fear is an emotion.

You didn’t complete your university assignment on time. Why? Because you slacked off and went to the movies instead. OK, some might argue that this example is about time management and in part they’d be right. But really the reason you went to the cinema was because you were bored—and boredom is an emotion.

Had you been able to control your emotions—fear and boredom—in these situations then would you have been guaranteed success? Would you have got the girl or handed in a stellar piece of work?

No, not necessarily.

But by bypassing fear and taking action instead you would have put yourself in a much stronger position.

You would have set yourself up for success.

People self-sabotage themselves unnecessarily all the time and fear is usually at the root of it. Logically, when you see an attractive girl walking down the street holding a Victoria’s Secret bag, laughing with her friends over a cappuccino there is no reason why you can’t go up and introduce yourself, except that you are afraid.

Think about it—what is the worst that could happen?

Well, perhaps she’d pour her drink over you. Perhaps she’d have a good laugh, turn and walk the other way.

But neither of these things would kill you (well, not unless you suffer from an allergy to cappuccino, that is).

Had you been able to successfully master your fear then your chances with that girl would have been much higher than they were when you didn’t (i.e. 0%).

So What Can You Do About It?

The most popular piece of advice to give in regard to managing ones emotions is ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’ (a title so good that is almost obviates the need for the book itself.) I wholeheartedly endorse it. ‘Faking it until you make it’ is such a powerful tool that it should probably be taught in schools.

Most of the successful people we see around us are faking it to make it. Do you think most politicians really have a clue what they’re doing out there on the campaign trail? Of course they don’t. They are merely following their instincts and acting sure of themselves.

As with a great many of the principles of successful dating, things like faking it until you make it, being assumptive, assuming arrogance and leading all apply equally well to other walks of life like politics and building a successful business.

Some people, you might assume, are born with an innate ability to control their emotions while others aren’t.

But there must be more to it than that. Is it really true that emotionally controlled people are born, not made? And if it is, how can the rest of us grab some of that good stuff for ourselves.

In other words, are there specific behaviours and techniques that you can imitate and internalise to make your dating AND work life a success?

Yes, there are. And I discuss them every day in the email that I send out to my inner circle. If you want to join the club then click the link here now.

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