Well, here we are – we’ve reached New Year’s Day 2023. How the hell did that happen? By the way, it’s with some muted sadness that I say goodbye to the Christmas period. Despite my protestations to the contrary, I actually rather like Christmas. It just always seems like such a build-up to not-very-much-really. Rather …
An interesting post from the Dating Advice For Men Reddit: Any attractive dudes in here that constantly encounter mutual attraction they are unable to capitalise on? It’s usually fleeting encounters in public, but even in situations that are supposed to be deemed “appropriate” social environments like bars and parties it is challenging. It seems that …
Comes a question from someone who consumes my content: ‘Hey Troy, love the videos. I have a very simple question. I am 23 years’ old with no sexual experience and all I want is to find a girlfriend. How do I get a girlfriend?’ Now once upon a time – we are led to believe …
A question that comes up time and again: how soon should I message her once I have her phone number? It’s an obvious question, and an understandable one, but it bespeaks a certain wrongheadedness about the dating process. Put simply, if you are bugging out about how soon (or not) to message her then you …
Let’s turn our attention for a moment to developing ‘real’ inner game. By this I mean we need to go further than a few trite platitudes worthy of Instagram, because not everyone is fortunate enough to start from a ‘good-enough’ baseline. Many guys – myself included – who come to this space for advice and …
Without further ado, here are my top 10 inner game secrets. 1. Fake It ‘til You Make It DOES Work – Up To A Point ‘Fake it ‘til you make it’ gets bad press in the self-development space which is not surprising. The implication, after all, is that you can simply sit on your butt …
Timothy Gallwey first coined the term ‘inner game’ in his book The Inner Game of Tennis: The Classic Guide to the Mental Side of Peak Performance, writing that “every game is composed of two parts, an outer game and an inner game”; where the outer game is fought against another opponent and the inner game …
In celebration of the launch of my course CHARISMA & DATING ACADEMY Q4 I will be running a whole TWELVE DAYS’ worth of content on INNER GAME on YouTube from Nov 1st – Nov 12th 2021 If ‘game’ is about externals like flirting, body language and eye contact then ‘inner game’ focuses on the mindsets …
Breakups are hard, one of the hardest things that we have to go through. I have a friend who once said to me ‘even the death of my father was not as painful as some of the breakups I’ve been through’. Let that sink in for a moment.The demise of his own flesh and blood …
One problem with getting older is that you’ve done everything before. Not absolutely everything, of course (more on that later). But by my age (late 40s) when you’ve seen quite a few seasons pass it’s difficult to avoid a feeling of sameness and ennui. You meet a girl. She’s cute, but her reactions are almost …
