Readers who follow me on Twitter will doubtless be aware that I often retweet the mischievous, erotic, literary and sometimes cryptic utterances of a shadowy internet figure who calls himself Dr Ernst Gräfenberg (the pseudonym is taken from the man who first discovered the G Spot). While Dr Gräfenberg is not a pickup artist …
I’ve just uploaded a new episode of The Modern Casanova podcast called The Endgame of Game. You can listen to it here Game is now reaching middle age with many of the original players in their late thirties, forties or even older. Does that mean a generation of men who won’t settle down and will …
There was a plastic carrier bag of vomit in the cupboard beside my bed. It had been there for over a week. The stench of it thickened up the air in my room. I was in bed. The sheets were dirty, of course. They’d remained unwashed for many weeks. I was half-awake but I was in a …
Today I maxed out my sociability. I had a business breakfast with two female clients. I had a business lunch with two female colleagues, a female client and two male clients. I then chaired a 12-step recovery meeting of about 50 people. Then I went to dinner with a male friend and flirted with three …
She said I looked like Daniel Craig. I said she looked like she needed a good spanking. She said I had a lot of imagination. I said these days it was important to be creative. She said she had many hidden talents—particularly in the bedroom. I said I bet she did. She said she was …
Corporate work is a huge timesuck: this is not breaking news. Everyone is aware of this fact. Instead of spending your time doing something you love, or even something that you are kind of ‘meh’ about—but at least it’s your something on your own terms—corporate work demands of most people that they do something they …
I was arrogant and sure of myself and maybe it wasn’t justified quite yet. But I had an excuse. I knew my potential. I had rock solid, immovable confidence in it. I knew what I could be, what I would be. And in a way I was already it—it’s just the rest of the world …
In life it’s very easy to neglect all the good things that we have in order to dwell on the negatives. This can definitely be a fault of mine, even though I am interested in self-development and strive to live a life that brings happiness to others as well as myself. A way to combat this …
Ruthless self-analysis is essential to achieve the freedom you crave. Why? Because it is only when you fully understand yourself and know what it is you really want that you will be in a position to get it. Self-analysis doesn’t sound that hard and it isn’t, but the world around us makes it difficult. Why? Because …
Understand this, if you are lazy and fearful then your life will never transcend that of the ordinary man. Perhaps you are OK with that. Perhaps an ordinary, mediocre life is all that you want. If so then that’s absolutely fine. But my message is not for you. Because I am unable to countenance such …
