When you are immersed in the world of dating and seduction, which presumably a great many readers of this blog are, you tend to put a great deal of pressure on yourself in terms of the quality of your approaches.
After all, you’ve read the books and you’ve seen the videos. You’ve heard of something called ‘verbal bamboozling’. You know that Casanova spoke of being able to talk away his ugly face with his witty tongue. And so when you go to talk to a girl you pause and hold back. What if you can’t think of anything to say? And what if what you do end up saying is lame and uninspiring?
The truth of the matter, though, is that you don’t have to be Russell Brand in order to establish a connection with a new girl. This truth is demonstrated in the new video I’ve just published on YouTube, which I’ve called Dating Coach Gets Cute Thai Girl’s Number With BORING Daygame Conversation!
Actually, the conversation really isn’t that bad. But it’s normal. Pedestrian. And it doesn’t rely on a lot of the PUA’s typical tips and tricks that we all know and love.
Nevertheless, I hit it off with the girl, she gives me some IOIs (hair flicking, giggling etc) and she gives me her phone number at the end.
What is the secret sauce here? Well, for a start, I open strongly. I walk straight up to her and tell her ‘you’re so cute’. This is a bold strategy that girls may well have experienced in clubs, where drunk guys do this sort of thing all the time. But stone-cold sober on the street in the middle of the afternoon it’s pretty unusual.
This immediately gives me some kudos. After all, what kind of dude has the chutzpah to do this – presumably one who has seen some success with the strategy before. A ‘high-value’ guy.
(Of course, whether I am or am not ‘high value’ objectively is not the point here. The point is what I am sub-communicating through my behaviour).
Secondly, I spike things up a couple of times by saying that Bangkok is a ‘naughty city’, and speculating on whether gap year girls are ‘good during the day and go crazy at night’.
While subtle, both of these gambits have a sexual subtext and in employing them I a framing the girl as a sexual being. I’ve certainly been more overt with this in other infield videos and approaches, but a little goes a long way, and this peppering of the conversation with naughtiness ensures that it doesn’t stray too far into ‘friend-zone’ territory.
Since this girl is going to meet her friends (and I am at the end of a long morning’s filming!) I keep things short and sweet and ask for her phone number after a couple of minute’s chat. When she’s putting her number into my phone I start off on that riff about my battery running down a lot. Not because it’s in any way interesting, but because there’s nothing worse than standing there in deathly silence while she inputs her digits. You want to keep things light and frothy at this point, since an awkward silence here could jettison the whole thing.
I didn’t put this video up to showcase ‘flashy game’ – quite the opposite. My hope is that when you watch it you’ll see that the bar is actually pretty low for meeting new girls and establishing connections with them while you’re out and about in your everyday life.
Daygame needn’t be an over-intellectualised slog. In its simplest form it’s about sparking attraction, having a chat and then finding a way to stay in contact afterwards.
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