As you will be aware, I’ve recently been filming daygame infields for my new YouTube channel. You can see the first of these here (and do please hit that subscribe button plus the notifications bell).
For those uninitiated with the terminology, an ‘infield’ is an audio-visual recording of a dating coach or player walking up to a girl and introducing himself, chatting her up and taking her number (or taking her on a date, or whatever).
These videos are incredibly useful for guys learning to grow their confidence and get better with women. I myself have benefitted greatly from them over the years. Because rather than simply reading theory what could be better than actually viewing someone talking to a girl in real life?
Each video teaches its own lessons, of course, but overall you learn:
- That cold-approaching girls you’ve never met before (either in the daytime or at night) is possible and works.
- That the ground will NOT swallow you up if you try it.
- That these interactions can be very fun and positive.
- You also get to hear the actual ‘lines’ that the dating coach uses, plus the girls’ reactions
For guys who are improving their dating skills today infield videos are a godsend—had I had access to them when I started out in the early 2000s my own journey would have been a lot easier.
Why Didn’t I Make Daygame Infields Sooner?
I have been working as a ‘game’ writer and dating coach for some years now, and yet up until this point I have always resisted creating infield videos myself.
Why was this, and what changed?
The original reason is pretty simple—I had a job. And if you’re employed by a corporation the last thing you want is videos of yourself flirting with girls floating around online, for obvious reasons.
So keen was I to maintain my anonymity that I didn’t even put out a photograph of myself for the first few years, preferring instead to hide behind an avatar.
But even when I became self-employed over a year ago, I still held off from shooting infields.
Now, the reasons become more diverse and complex.
For one thing, I’ve always been a writer, not a filmmaker or presenter—writing is my passion, it’s what I’m best at, and it’s been my sole ambition to write for my whole life. As such, my original business plan was simply to write a new book every couple of months then rinse and repeat. Building up a big enough back catalogue would give me a sustainable income.
Well, to date I’ve published nine books on dating and game (and related issues) and they’re selling very well.
I have written my share of ‘how to’ material—instructions for guys of ‘what to do’ when you go out to meet girls, both on this site and in my books. But my real interest was in documenting the so-called ‘player lifestyle’—in portraying the realities of bachelor existence with all of its joys and sadnesses.
My desire is to be a memoirist—to transcend the ‘pick-up’ genre and to write books more in the vein of a Bukowski or a Henry Miller.
BUT . . . people (unsurprisingly) want to see evidence. It’s all very well to write a 1000-word article telling people how you picked up a beautiful Italian girl. But unless there’s at least some proof that you did (or have the skills to have done so) then people are going to look at you askance.
I am not the biggest name on the ‘men’s dating advice’ scene by any means (and nor have I ever wanted to be) but I am by this time well-known enough to have people criticising me regularly for not delivering any evidence of my purported ‘skills’.
I get that. I would argue that things are complicated a little since I have never said that I personally am the best player on the planet, and a lot of my writing has observed other peoples’ game.
But still—they want to see you walk the walk as well as talk the talk.
Another factor is that, as wedded to writing as I am, I am fully aware that video is HUGELY important these days in terms not only of content creation but also of marketing, too. There have been reports that video will overtake text online in the very near future. While I am sceptical about that, I can certainly see the value in getting good on camera, and putting out some decent-quality video content.
Selfishly, therefore, making videos is good for me since it helps me to build my skills in these areas (and iron out imperfections in my own game as well).
Now, when you get into making videos, another dynamic comes into play. You are, for the want of a better word, a performer. And actually, that’s something I kind of relish, despite being fairly introverted.
I know that when I’m really on fire I can have great interactions with girls. And actually, there is something quite nice about recording that. And showing other people what can be done, even by a guy who was shy and lacking in self-esteem as a kid.
It’s unlikely I’ll carry on doing it forever, so now is a good time to do so before I get too old and craggy.
In the past I’ve felt somewhat negative about infields since it always felt to me as though the player became a dancing monkey’, running around the streets obediently to please his audience (who would probably only criticise his sets anyway).
But through shooting my own I can see that’s not the case. The infield format is one where you can showcase your unique personality, your individual way of doing game.
My way of doing is game is not exactly the same as anyone else’s—I am not Tom Torero, or James Tusk, or James Marshall. Of course, I have taken inspiration from other coaches, but my style is my own, shaped by my own individual worldview and experiences.
Some people will like it and others will not. And that’s OK. In fact, that’s how it’s meant to be.
Effective Teaching Method
Most importantly of all, the infield is perhaps the most effective teaching aid there is for showing guys how this stuff works in practice. Despite all the many hundreds of thousands of words I’ve written about this subject over the last few years, it’s possible that the demo video I put out the other day is a better way form of showcasing my ideas than any other.
My foray into YouTube glory will last as long as it lasts. Originally my intention was to shoot a single reel of infields to be set to music (which I did) and leave it at that. However, as I began to see the possibilities for my YouTube channel and the videos I became hooked, and I’m now contemplating a much bigger-scale project.
In the end, though, infields and advice videos, as well as blog posts, Tweets etc., are all forms of marketing. They are not the product—the books (and private coaching, and online courses) are the product, with the books very much at the top of that list.
My intention for the moment is to make infields videos a staple part of my output, while not losing sight of what I really came here for in the first place: the writing, a lifestyle based on freedom, and of course the girls.
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