Dating advice frequently tells men to beware hankering after that one special girl—and to cultivate a mentality of abundance.
Sage advice—the problem that many young men face (and I for one certainly did) is believing that opportunities are one’s limited, that girls are somehow scarce.
That getting rejected by one beautiful girl somehow diminishes your opportunities for sex with others in the future in some strange, illogical way.
Of course, this is nonsense. Given the sheer scale of our planet’s population, it just doesn’t stand up to any kind of scrutiny. But as we move into spring, and the pavements and grassy parks in our cities become bathed in golden sunshine, and everyone starts wearing less, you might be excused for believing the opposite proposition:
What if the problem is not a lack of abundance, but too much?
Look, the facts are these: if have your fundamentals down—that is, you are well-dressed, and well-groomed—and you possess a modicum of social acumen, and you live in a city or urban conurbation with a decent-sized population then sooner or later you will meet girls who finds you attractive.
No ifs, no buts. It will happen. It’s a certainty.
The more women you approach, the more you will be intimate with. And the more you are intimate with, the more will come back to re-experience your erotic attentions.
Strippers
People often talk about dating multiple girls concurrently as though it were a specialised sub-sector of game, like dating strippers or having threesomes.
It isn’t.
It is simply about hitting the streets (and the clubs, and the bars) or the place where you live and approaching with social poise that is good enough as frequently as possible.
Maintain this regime for a couple of months, and I promise you that you will end up with more WhatsApp, Facebook and Instagram contacts, and more girls than you know what to do with as a result.
Maybe I’m fortunate. I live in Central London — every time I travel to work on the underground, or walk down Oxford Street, I see three, four, five girls I would happily spend an evening or two with.
If I speak to all of them, and only even a fraction of them respond positively, then in little or no time I become booked up for dates all week.
Then, I end up making excuses to get out of seeing them at weekends so that I can meet other, new girls in the clubs.
Understand: cities are filled with thousands of young women working dull jobs who are simply desperate for a healthy injection of excitement in their lives.
Forget being a master seducer—your game doesn’t even need to be that good.
All you need to do is open every girl you are attracted to and either take her on an instant date (which can lead on to other things) or get her contact details (WhatsApp / Insta / FB), depending on what is feasible in the circumstances.
Many bemoan feminism, but let’s never forget that as far as the availability of sex is concerned, men have literally never had it so good.
Successful dating is not simply a numbers game. There are social skills to be learned and you have to practice to get good at these.
But the truth is, if you approach new women consistently as you go about your daily business then pretty soon you will find that your problem is not a lack of dates, but rather having too many to fit into your busy schedule.
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