One of the most important components of a man’s game is audacity. You must develop an attitude of audaciousness to get girls.
Game is, in essence, a revocation of social niceties. If I approach a girl coming out of the tube, or on a busy street, or if I interrupt her in a bar as she is talking to friends, then I am contravening (in a small way) established social conventions.
In order to do that, I have to, on some level, believe that I am the shit. More than that, I have to believe I am the shit, and I have to communicate my being-the-shitness forcibly and emphatically to my target.
At base, audacity is about taking risks in social situations and demonstrating that you do not fear rejection as a result. This might mean asking out a waitress in a coffee bar in front of all of her colleagues.
It might mean putting out your hand to a girl in the centre of a circle of friends in a club and pulling her out to dance. It might mean fixing eye contact with a girl in a busy street, walking straight up to her, taking her hand and looking deep into her eyes . . .
To develop an attitude of audacity, you must work on your personality from the ground up. There are a ton of resources out there for building up confidence and inner game: seek them out; use them.
A useful shortcut, though, in the ‘fake-it-to-make-it’ mould, is modelling. Think of famous men that you admire – not just George Clooney and Brad Pitt, but more idisyncratic characters who have nevertheless stamped their personality on the world. A few of my personal favourites are Dave Gahan from Depeche Mode, Robbie Williams,Russell Brand and Morrissey.
Think about how your chosen models carry themselves in the world then copy the way they behave when you are in public.
If you are not yet at a place in your life where you believe your value to be optimal, then think about your potential value. Every man (and woman) is unique, because each of us has a consciousness, a take on the world, that is entirely ours and cannot be replicated. It is your life’s work to determine how best you can impose this consciousness on the external world.
Right now, just know that you have unique value and use this knowledge to raise your state. Walk tall, walk proud. My gait is ridiculous – I used to stride around my place of work with a kind of Saturday Night Fever fervour. Girls would frequently refer to it – female colleagues I’ was friends with would tease me about it, but of course they were attracted nonetheless
I walk with audacity: signalling my inner, unshakeable belief that I have unique value that makes me stand out from others.
It is precisely this frame of mind that lends my best interactions with women their special character. I always push the envelope socially – I say things I shouldn’t be able to get away with, I escalate fast and in public because I am audacious and don’t believe I will be rejected: it is outside my reality.
Develop your own personal mythology, develop self-love then radiate audacity and you will soon be considered attractive by scores of enthusiastic women.
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