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8 Lessons #Selfie Teaches Us About Modern Society

One of the key tenets of postmodernism is  that no distinction should be made between so-called high and low culture. #Selfie by The Chainsmokers, which has so far received over 74 million views on YouTube and is now creeping up the UK Top 40 without even an official release here yet can therefore be legitimately viewed as art. I would go further, and suggest that it is one of the most significant cultural documents to have emerged thus far in 2014, for #Selfie, in both its content and delivery expresses the dire state of contemporary culture and (many)  modern young women. It also represents what might be viewed as a mainstreaming of red pill attitudes and ideas.

Set to a generic EDM beat, #Selfie is built around a monologue by a self-obsessed, solipsistic girl that charts the highs and lows of her night out at a club,  punctuated by her taking pictures of herself to post on a social network (presumably Instagram or Facebook).

It matters little that critical reception to the track has generally been negative, and that The Chicago Reader called it ‘garbage, paint-by-numbers EDM with all the artistic flavor of an audio software preset that makes “Harlem Shake” sound like Selected Ambient Works Volume II‘  In the most successful works of art, the medium is the message, and nowhere is that more the case than here. So the music sounds cheap and tacky? It’s meant to. This is modern America (and England and much of the rest of the Anglosphere): a giant nightclub playing shit, neon-colored EDM where girls rendered nearly feral by off-the-scale societal license obsess over the one asset they have been taught to value over all else: their own image.

It is striking just how many red pill truths are contained within the song’s three short verses. This in itself reveals an interesting truth about the manosphere’s perspective on contemporary culture — as much as Rollo’s long essays on the stages of a woman’s SMV curve are fascinating, and our endless conversations on hypergamy are illuminating, the truth is that none of these things are secrets out there in the wider world. The reality of female behavior is already in plain sight –– #Selfie proves it. One might liken ‘taking the red pill’ to pulling back a very thin, nearly transparent curtain covering what is already almost visible, rather than discovering some obscure, well-hidden secrets. But let’s examine the song in segments and consider what it reals about modern women.





1. LESSON: women get turned on when they are confused by a man’s intentions.

When Jason was at the table
I kept on seeing him look at me while he was with that other girl
Do you think he was just doing that to make me jealous?
Because he was totally texting me all night last night
and I don’t know if it’s a booty call or not
So… like what do you think?

The vaginal-tingles created by Jason’s pre-selection by another girl are obvious, and even though the narrator suspects he might intend to make her jealous, it still works, given she’s considering booty-calling him. His hot-and-cold strategy has paid dividends (texting her one night, ignoring her the next).


2. LESSON: There is no camaraderie between women. In short, they hate one another.

Did you think that girl was pretty?
How did that girl even get in here?
Do you see her?
She’s so short and that dress is so tacky
Who wears Cheetah?


3. LESSON: Modern women are unable to forego tending to their needs, physical and emotional, even for a second.

It’s not even summer, why does the DJ keep on playing “Summertime Sadness”?
After we go to the bathroom, can we go smoke a cigarette?
I really need one
But first,

The comment about ‘Summertime Sadness’ is clearly asinine and is meant as a straight-up piss-take. What is more interesting is the girl’s craving for gratification. She ‘really needs’ a cigarette, but even before that, she must take a selfie in order to gain the attention and validation she requires.


4. LESSON: Modern women crave external validation (from men) over all else.

Can you guys help me pick a filter?
I don’t know if I should go with XX Pro or Valencia
I wanna look tan
What should my caption be?
I want it to be clever
How about “Livin’ with my bitches, hash tag LIVE”
I only got 10 likes in the last 5 minutes
Do you think I should take it down?

This lays bare the true purpose of the selfie. Ostensibly, girls take pictures of themselves on a night out to celebrate their togetherness and to capture the wild, crazy time that they are enjoying. At any rate, this is what they tell themselves and each other. The reality is different. Look at how carefully the narrator considers the filter she will use. The reason: she wants to look ‘tan’ i.e. hot, or sexually attractive to the men who will see the shot on Instagram. This is proven by the her vacillation over whether to take down an existing image that has only garnered her ’10 likes in the last 5 minutes.’



5. LESSON: Modern women are wired only to maintain attraction to those who show zero interest in them or who appear unattainable to them (i.e. Jason sitting at the table with another girl in Verse 1)

Wait, pause, Jason just liked my selfie
What a creep

Perhaps the most interesting lines in the whole song (from a manosphere perspective, anyway.) Not only do we see evidence of solipsism in the almost absurd self-dramatization of ‘Wait, pause’; but more importantly, we note that as soon as Jason shows an interest in the narrator by ‘liking’ her selfie, she instantly goes off him, calling him a creep (that catch-all shaming word girls use to neutralize those men in whom they are not interested who approach them). While we might laugh at the speed of her change of heart (or muff de-moisturizing) the fact that we recognise the truth in it is disturbing.


LESSON: Further evidence of modern women’s disdain for one another.

Yeah, the one next to the girl with no shoes on
That’s so ratchet
That girl is such a fake model
She definitely bought all her Instagram followers
Who goes out on Mondays?


6. LESSON: Further evidence of the insatiability of women’s requirement for immediate sensual and / or physical pleasure, i.e. alcohol, dancing.  

OK, let’s go take some shots
Oh no, ugh I feel like I’m gonna throw up
Oh wait, nevermind I’m fine
Let’s go dance


7. LESSON: Women will always trade-up to the man with the greatest available resources 

There’s no vodka at this table — do you know anyone else here?

The clearest illustration of hypergamy in the song. We imagine that the girls are at some guy’s table. Because he has no vodka available, they will look to go elsewhere.



8. LESSON: Be persistent and respond to the sexual cues that women put out (i.e. selfies, short dresses etc.) Above all, women desire validation as sexual beings (from the right, pre-selected guy, anyway).

Oh my god, Jason just texted me
Should I go home with him?
I guess I took a good selfie

Perhaps the narrator’s apparent change of heart regarding Jason was presaged by her alcohol consumption. Anyway, this line (and the reference to booty-calling earlier) reveals the casual attitude to hooking up that young women have today — no bad thing from the player’s perspective, of course, although many will be concerned about the wider societal impact. I think it also suggests that women will reward men who are up-front in their physical desire. Presumably, Jason has texted her because she looks hot in her selfie — that is, he has acted like a man and expressed the entirely sexual basis of his desire for her. As such, she is considering going home with him.

There’s no doubt that #Selfie is a significant social document, and its massive global popularity attests to this. One might argue that I am reading too much into it, but I suspect that those behind the track knew exactly what they were doing. There is something in the Wagnerian grandeur of the main synth hook that suggests a kind of ‘fiddling while Rome burns’  apocalyptic sensibility at play, and anyway, it is often in the most unexpected places that a culture is honest with itself. What is particularly amusing is the number of girls failing to see the satire, and posting selfies ‘inspired’ by the song on their social feeds.

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Troy is a game veteran of a decade's standing, and a lover of women, literature, travel and freedom. Follow him on Twitter here.

Jake - May 2, 2014

The girls fail to see the satire in the same way fish don’t know what water is. The girls have been raised in an environment where #selfie behaviour is normal and accepted.

troyfrancispua - May 3, 2014

Definitely – it’s a sad state of affairs.

joseromero639423775 - May 17, 2014

Great Post! I will never be able to hear that song the same way again! LOL

    troyfrancispua - May 18, 2014

    Many thanks man! I think it’s one of those songs that reveals a lot about the culture.

Trojano Horse - July 10, 2014

I have been tarnished! I had a half-baked idea on #selfie but when you put it in such a clear-cut manner, I can’t see it the same way lol

Greg - October 30, 2014

That’s a real stretch bro. That song pokes fun of air headed valley girls. The Paris Hilton types out there. Obviously, not all girls. And this may be some news to you, but guys take selfies too for no better reasons.

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